When do you know it is time to divorce?
Is it when you can’t stand to hear the sound of your spouse while he/she is eating?
Is it when you make plans that never include them?
Is it when the slightest idea of getting intimate bring you a nausea sensation?
Once I read somewhere that when you lose the admiration for the other person is when things start to change.
I don’t admire my husband, and it hurts to say that.
In general, we have a good relationship; he is a good dad and a great husband who does his share around the house.
He has a job and is the one who pays the majority of the bills.
He has no addiction, and despite being a bit overweight, he still attractive for some.
He is clean, well groomed, smart and interesting.
My life would be so much easier if, after 12 years + 3 kids, I still felt the same way I did when we first met.
But if I am not the same as 12 years ago, why should I expect to have the same taste, the same plans, and the same love?
I never feel guilty when I am with the other man, but I do feel guilty for being this wild, almost fearless spirit that I am.
I feel selfish when I stop to think about it, and this is the question I ask myself: When it is the right time to divorce?